WOMEN
Please take time to provide your comments to the following questions.
There are some Saved Single Men who actually care!
SISTERS...
1. Can women and men be friends? Why? Why not?
2. What do "boundaries" in dating mean?
3. What do you want in a husband?
4. What bad habits are you willing to live with in your mate?
5. How do you maintain faith while waiting for the right mate?
6. What would you like a Saved Single Man to know and understand about a Saved Single Woman?
6 comments:
Good Afternoon Cynthia,
Saved Single Women want to meet men who are Christians, who are not depending on women for their survival, in other words, they have a successful source of income and could care for a wife, the way the Bible says. Men are to be the head of the household.
I am so tired of meeting men who only want to meet you, because of the amount of money and resources you have.
Why not, choose me, because of my heart, the fact that I love the Lord, and that you are attracted to me, yes there needs to be chemistry.
But even if I don't have it all together, that is what a man in my life should do. He should, in my opinion, make my life better.
And I, should make his life better. And what I mean is, I'm so old fashioned that I want to care my my husband, wash his clothes, clean the house, and have my husband be the provider.
I'm old school!
Sorry to take so long, but more and more, time is very tight.
Response to #1) Of course they can be friends, but rarely will this occur. It is possible if both parties subordinate their desires, urges, sexuality to the ideal of loving someone for who that person is. If we mutually remove our wants and humble ourselves to the service of some one else, then the relationship can take a more spiritual journey. Men still see women not so much as sex objects, but sexual objectives; there's a difference. Women are not far from this, and may be more guilty of objectifying men (men should just donate their sperm and move on) than men are.
#2) Someone who is obedient to the Gospel. A friend who can share and receive with openness. Fairly attractive. A partner. Good cook. Working. Has similar interests. Open, honest and willing to grow in Christ.
#3) I'm not sure which bad habits I could live with, but I'm sure that I can't live with constant belching and passing gas with abandon. Flirting with other men. If none of my needs make her top 5. Goes through my pockets while I'm sleeping or other wise. Can and will beat me at chess. Can and will beat me at pin ball. Can and will beat me at bowling. Can and will just beat on me. Smelly feet or under arms. Eats all the food and never buys. Has 14 kids under the age of 15 and one on the way. Lacks a sense of humor.
#4) Boundaries in dating - setting limits with room for some compromise. Expressing likes and dislikes. Setting limits re what a person will and will not do. Some things are non-negotiable and should be expressed to the partner asap within the dating union. Being open to your partner's concern, being honest to express your boundaries and being willing to participate in these processes.
#5) Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all other things shall be added unto you. Firm believer! Standing right there and immovable.
#6) If she is Christ centered and truthful.
Anonymous
Amen! As a single woman, I want a Godly man who will understand my purpose and work to help me achieve it, as I will help him. This man will place Jesus Christ on top of his list that he desires to please. He will know more scripture and have more insight/revelation knowledge than I, so that I will be able to glean from him. He will be an awesome prayer warrior, leading me immediately to prayer when circumstances come in my life that are contrary to God's Word. He will love me unconditionally, as the Lord loves the body of Christ.
Once married, we will work together to run a smooth household; by this I mean, whoever is the one that has the ability to balance our checkbooks and is more financially savvy will take on that responsibility. Because I will be the queen of my home, it is my responsibility to make sure the home is in lack of nothing - hire the right people and do the things that I am able to do on my own. We, as a couple, will compliment each other and not be in competition with one another. Love, love, love will be in us, so we will aim to please.
Yes, single men and single women can be friends. It is good to hear comments from the opposite sex on different issues, but single women and married men, or vice versa, should not talk alone to one another. This is a breeding place for satanic activity and temptation. Group discussions are welcomed.
1. Men and women can be friends, but you need to be on the same page with each other because some men will have another idea in their head that they're going to work their way up to marriage. The woman friend, may just want a friendship. That happened to me once.
2. Boundaries in dating mean that you are not going to have sex, no touchy feely, not anything sexual except maybe kissing and holding hands, and no shacking (living with each other before marriage), and these boundaries are very neccesary because these boundaries are what God wants and what God wants is most of the time what is best for you and me.
3. What I want in a husband is first he must be christian, someone who loves me for who I am, understands me and I understand him, is handsome to me, has a job/career, and we can talk about anything.
I am a single women and i want a responsible man, who is interest in me for who i am and not what i have. He has to be save and fill with the holy spirit. A man who knows how to handle me in the bed and out side of the bed, he has to be smart and full of love. He is not prefect, but want me to be all i can be. He is supportive and caring. I need him to be strong, so when i am weak he can carry me and build me up in my most holy faith. And he has to have good chemistry.
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